By N. Lauper
I was recently faced with the privilege and challenge of being my great-niece’s temporary legal guardian. But as soon as I had I agreed to care for her, I lost my job. The whole experience brought me back to a time when I was a much younger, single mom. Being a mom is no easy task, regardless of your circumstances, but certainly the endeavor is a much more challenging one when you have little or no support from family and are on your own.
As a single mom, I quickly learned the importance of finding out what resources were available in the GTA. These enabled me to not merely survive the circumstances I found myself in, but to rise above them.
I also discovered early on that I needed loyal friends who would walk along with me on my parenting journey and would be there for me during those times when I needed a break. They encouraged me when I felt discouraged – particularly as I discovered firsthand what is meant by a “strong willed child” from my toddler son.
Parenting is a busy undertaking so organization and balance were key to keeping me from becoming overwhelmed. I quickly realized that our current “supermom” culture, where women are expected to do everything and be everything, is not only unrealistic but unhealthy. Instead I focused on my goals, learning to prioritize and steadily work towards achieving things that were most important to me. As I sought wise counsel along the way, I was amazed at how much I could accomplish through patience and perseverance.
Parenting is no easy undertaking. But when you’re surrounded by people who care for you and your little one, the experience can be exhilarating and rewarding in ways that simply cannot be expressed in words!