“I didn’t realize what I would gain from being a parent.”
In part one, Alanna described the aloneness and difficulty that surrounded her pregnancy. After her son Romario was born, she planned to return to university… but there were many roadblocks in the way. One thing kept her dedicated: Romario, and her deep desire to give him the best life possible.
Alanna was studying nursing
During the second year of the program is when I found out that I was pregnant. I found out that I was due at the end of March and I didn’t want to give up a year of school, just because he was due at the end of the term. So I went ahead and tried to complete the year.
But during the first semester, with clinical and the pregnancy – I tried to balance everything but I crumbled under the pressure and I was not able to continue. It was very discouraging. At one point I almost gave up. And I said, “You know what, I am not going to do this anymore.”
After this, I thought about it – what do I want to do for the rest of my life? And I know that my passion is nursing. Three years later I have got the grades and I am pretty sure that I am going to get in this time. And the thing that kept me motivated was Romario.
I want to be able to give back to Romario, let him have the best the childhood he can. And in order for me to do that, I knew that I needed to do nursing. And I just put my head to it and said, “Okay, it’s go-time, I am going to do this.”
And Romario was really my motivation for that: I really wanted to make sure that I set as solid a foundation as I can for him.
Having Romario, I have definitely changed and grown. Things that you learn through parenthood – you don’t realize how they play into part in everything that you do, from driving on the road, to ordering food, to doing groceries… patience, planning and organizing. I applied that to other things that I do, to my work ethic, my place of employment, my academic life, studying and to my professional life.
Now that Romario is here, I have to figure out when is the best time for me to do my work and when is the best time for me to set aside time to spend with Romario (because you definitely cannot study with a toddler in the house!) When all those things came into play, I didn’t really realize what I would gain from becoming a parent.
Don’t let anybody tell you “no”. You have to have faith in yourself. If you do not believe in yourself, nobody is going to believe in you. If you have faith in yourself, you are confident, you know you could do it and you put your head to it and you get it done, then that is was everyone is going to see.